Experiencing Pain During Sex?

Dr. Rose Schlaff, DPT, WHC

You’re NOT alone, nearly 75% of women and people with vulvas will experience discomfort during intercourse at some point. Fortunately, there are strategies that can help you get back to a joyful and satisfying sex life. 

Various factors might contribute to pain with sex, like endometriosis, hormonal imbalance, pelvic floor muscle tension, stress, anxiety, or past trauma.

Regardless of the initial cause of pain, pelvic floor tension could be a factor. If you have experienced pain with sex in the past, your pelvic floor might contract without your conscious awareness to protect you which can increase discomfort. Simple breathing exercises and gentle stretches like child’s pose can help relax the pelvic floor and provide relief. For free pelvic floor relaxation tips, check out www.bewellwithrose.com/guide  

Communication with your partner is key in addressing pain during sex. Creating clear expectations, exploring different positions and activities, using lubricants and toys, and having a game plan for when pain does occur can help facilitate more ease and pleasure. You can find a free “Let’s Talk About Sex” conversation starter at https://www.bewellwithrose.com/talk 

When healing pain with sex, a holistic approach that addresses the mental, physical and relational factors is vital. You don’t have to do this alone – support from a therapist, pelvic therapist and/or sex coach can also be beneficial in addressing all aspects contributing to pain during sex. With the right support, a pain-free and pleasurable sex life is possible!